We often mistake bullying for conflict, a disagreement between equals, a moment of friction. But bullying is something else entirely. It’s intentional, repeated harm, rooted in power imbalance. And its effects don’t vanish when the bully does.
For many, bullying leaves a legacy of shame, isolation, and mistrust. It shapes how we see ourselves, how we relate to others, how safe we feel in the world. Children carry it into adulthood. Adults carry it into their relationships, their workplaces, their sense of self.
Healing begins with recognition. It means naming the harm, validating the pain, and helping restore a sense of safety and agency. That might involve building boundaries, strengthening support, or gently working with the systems that allowed it to happen.
Bullying is not a moment. It’s a wound. And with care, it can be healed.
If this speaks to your experience, or someone you care about, know that you’re not alone. There is support, and there is a way forward.